The Secret Art of Gentleness

“Let your gentleness be evident to all.  The Lord is near.” Philippians 4:5 In the early morning hours, I laid in bed, tears streaming into my ears. I was listening again to his wails through the intercom on my nightstand.  I tried to muster the energy to rise for the baby again, after waking countless…

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How to Have a Happy Mother’s Day When the Kids are Small

Mother’s Day carries with it a sneaky assumption: I should get paid back for all the hard work I do as a mother. 

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Worry: Do Turkeys Feel Happy?

I drove past them along a country road on my way back from dropping my kids off at school: a group of wild turkeys.  I ascertained most were young males, as I saw many tail feathers spread, strutting around like a bunch of young football players at a high school dance.  It was an overcast…

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The Gospel of Motherhood

She sat rocking her tiny infant – her third child in four years – to sleep in the carrier with her foot.  She sat silently looking at her hands while the rest of us gabbed about ourselves.  Then, one of our group asked her, “How is life for you now as a mom of three?”…

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Emotional Tool: “I Feel” Statements

There was that day at the beach.  Sunny, windless, and clear.   In my brain, I had built up some ungodly expectations about the amazing adventures we were going to have.  I packed the kayak and everything.  But my hard-working husband told me he planned to do nothing but rest his weary bones on the sand. …

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Emotional Tools: Self-Control

To have and to hold: myself – until I come back to my senses. It’s the first thing to reach for: before we even start dealing with the problem. It’s the very first tool. Some call it mindfulness.  Or awareness.  Or curiosity.  Actually, it comes before curiosity.  It’s hard to be curious about why you feel…

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